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my creed…(trigger warning: sarcasm)

I'm delightfultreat others the way you want to be treated; this is the best rule to live by (i.e.: the golden rule). even if you’re an athiest, or an agnostic, or any other type of -est, -ic, or -ist.

don’t say you will do something and then back out without warning or explanation.

if you’re wrong, if you make a mistake, apologize and do your best to make it right.

those we love the most often bear the brunt of our fears, guilt and frustration, whether or not they are actually to blame; be mature enough to ask their forgiveness when you take it out on them.

grow up and take responsibility for your actions.

as a good friend constantly reminds me: you ARE NOT Atlas; so stop trying to carry the world on your shoulders. it will end up crushing you.

if you have child(ren), hug them everyday and tell them you love and are proud of them. if your job or school demands you be away from them for any length of time (i.e.: overnight), call them. our children are our greatest responsibilities… and our greatest achievements. they represent immortality and the best part of life.

you’re never too big or too old for Mama to take you down. she brought you into this world, and she can darn sure take you out. at any time. always respect Mama.

yes, we mothers DO have eyes in the backs of our heads, and no, we will not show them to you.

if you fight with your sibling(s), be sure to make up quickly. they’re some of the best friends you’ll ever have, and if they’re not, maybe you should sit down together and talk about what each of you is doing wrong. fix it. these misunderstandings are wounds that can fester if not lanced right away.

please remember that i’m an individual; if one of my brothers does something stupid or one of my parents offend you, please remember i’m NOT them; don’t blame me. i make enough of my own stupid mistakes and offend enough people; i don’t need to take someone else’s credit. the only two people i’ll accept blame – and praise for – are myself and my son. otherwise, go to the source.

i’m an open book. i’ve been told this before. along with that other cliche, that i wear my heart on my sleeve. if you don’t like to read and you like guessing games rather than the refreshing change of someone who prefers to tell it like they see it, then feel free to leave.

AttentionALWAYS keep open lines of communication with your significant other – or the one you want to BE your significant other. if you want the relationship to last, to work, YOU must work – both of you. and you can’t keep secrets from each other (unless it’s what you’re getting him or her for their birthday, Christmas, or other special days), or go to bed angry.

no cheating. ever. unless writing a book and that’s the character. then it’s okay. sometimes.

i have trust issues. i’m working on them. but if i trust you, don’t lie to me. i’ll do my best to hold myself to the same standard. if i lie to you or you think i have, please tell me so i can make it right if the fault lies with me.

if you need help, ASK FOR IT. but by the same token, don’t expect someone else to solve your problem(s) for you. it’s still your problem; we’ll help if we can, but don’t get lazy.

i don’t want your drama. i have enough of my own. (especially when my characters start taking control of their stories.)  i’m always willing to listen and offer comfort, advice, compassion, a shoulder to cry on/lean on, or assistance, whenever possible, but please remember to take your drama home with you. don’t dump it on me; i’m not your personal landfill. i’m raising a child who lives with ADHD & Asperger’s, and additionally, have my own problems with OCD, adult ADHD, anxiety and depression. i’ll try to extend the same courtesy to you.

i’m willing to listen to your side of the matter, as long as you’ll then listen to mine. (yes, i’ll let you go first.) we may not either succeed in changing the other’s opinion, but we can be satisfied by free, open dialogue. you may not like or agree with everything i have to say, and vise versa. but let’s talk anyway. different points of view are part of what makes life interesting. ignorance begets war. if you don’t believe me, then you need to brush up on your world – or American – history.

Healthy brainyes, i’m sarcastic, and often blunt, with a wacky sense of humor, and likely to stay that way; i’m a writer. it comes with the territory. if you can’t handle that, then maybe our friendship isn’t as strong as i thought it was.

i don’t like to play games. (except when my characters dictate that i do so.) i’m pretty up front with how i feel about people, situations, and life in general; i expect the same courtesy in return. (yes, i said this before, worded differently. somethings are worthy of repetition.)

i take great strides to avoid lying to myself or anyone else (omitting or evading with my son doesn’t count as lying); i expect the same courtesy in return. (also worthy of repetition).

i’m harder to offend than you might think; you disagreeing with me is rarely something worth being offended over. and if i do get offended, i’ll get over it. it’s called maturity.

i’m not stupid. sometimes my learning curve is way out in left field, but eventually i’ll get the picture. though sometimes not until i get smacked in the face with it.

Pretend to be normali’m an open-minded moderate conservative, and quite proud of it. the “open-minded” part means (among other things) that i’m happy to listen to your side of the story, and might even agree with you. the “moderate” part means i’m probably not as “right-wing” as you think i am. the “conservative” part means (among other things) that i don’t like to hear God’s name (or titles) cursed. why are you blaming Him for your problems? ever heard of a little thing called “free will?” everybody has it, and unfortunately, sometimes my free will infringes on your free will, so on and so forth. don’t blame the devil(s) either; free will still applies. if you make bad decisions, it’s your own fault; if you make good decisions, you can pat yourself on the back. good and bad happen to us all.

why do people always say “God****?” why not “Satan****?” or (insert parent’s name here)**** or (insert ex-spouse’s name here)****? etcetera, etcetera. i’m sure if you try it, those expressions will “flow off the tongue” just as easily as God’s name, who probably ALSO wonders why you’re cursing Him.

if i offend you, don’t expect me to know it if you don’t tell me. contrary to what seems to be popular opinion, i DON’T have esp (except for where my son is concerned). i may not apologize for offending you (especially if it wasn’t deliberate), but at least i’ll know the borders of your thin skin before our next interaction.

if you have a problem with me, i’d appreciate it if you tell ME rather than the grapevine. nobody likes a tattle tale.

yes, i’m assertive (aka, pushy). it’s all part of my charm.

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Counting Blessings (& getting sidetracked)

Today is a day of Thanksgiving. No, we haven’t suddenly fast-forwarded to November. I just feel like celebrating all the ways in which I’m blessed. Perhaps my thanksgiving-fest will inspire others to do the same and give me even more reasons to be thankful.

Thankful that school is almost over Stay strong! (only 9 weeks to go!!!) – think I’m beginning to dislike (public) school almost as much as my 8th Grader (his school, or the school district, is at least partially to blame as it’s taken half the school year of beating my head against the brick wall of teachers to get that brick wall to start MOVING!)…we’re going to try private school next year…if I can afford it…maybe I’ll try – Help Me Send My ADHD/Asperger Teenager to Private School Where They’ll Hopefully Focus on Social & Behavioral Skills as Much as Academia…it could work…..;

Thankful to be a part (hopefully an integral part) of an awesome team of people who put their hearts and minds daily into making Booktrope a contender in the publishing world. I’m so grateful for all the editing and proofreading (since I’m a Grammar Nazi at heart 😉 ) projects that have (almost literally) come knocking at my door (well, virtual door, anyway). I’ve met and become friends with so many kindred spirits of the written word, and am honored to be numbered among them;

Through Booktrope, Brain on ADHD I’ve come to know and work with many of the talented, beautiful people who are part of Stigma Fighters. In the short time I’ve worked (and continue to work) with them, I’ve learned so much about my son’s and my own mental health issues and that we’re not alone. There are people out there rooting for us, and I’m rooting for them #StigmaFightersUnite;

I’m so thankful for my family – especially my parents – who supports me, through thick and thin, even when they disagree with my choices, who are present as much as they can be in mine and my son’s lives. I love them so much and can never hope to thank them enough for all they’ve done, and continue to do, for us;

I’m thankful for a strong, supportive church family who continually prays for my son and me, who show their love in so many big and little ways, and thankful that God hasn’t given up on me (or my kiddo), that He’s still workin’ on us;

I’m thankful for both my bestie ADHD serenity prayer who knows wayyyy too much about me, but loves and hangs with me anyway, and my therapist, who provides a comfy couch and a safe place for me to vent, cry, and share the dark side of me.  My bestie GETS both me and my kiddo (she has a bit of ADHD herself 😉 ), and I can always depend upon her when I need a laugh. And even though my therapist (she’s also my son’s therapist) gets paid to talk and listen to both me and my kiddo, her personality and manner are such that visits with her are more like spending time with a long-time, sympathetic friend.

And last but not least, I’m thankful for my (sometimes wacky) sense of humor. Oh, yes, there is many a time my ability to see the humor in most situations (and find or create memes for them) helps me stay sane. I love to laugh and to make other people laugh. If I can make someone almost pee with laughter (or giggle or chuckle – I’m not picky), then my day is made and the anxiety and depression that constantly sit on the back burner of my psyche, waiting for the perfect moment to make themselves felt, are once again put in their place…on the back burner.

These are all things I’m thankful for today, this week, this month, this year – there are many other things for which I’m thankful, but don’t have anymore attention to spare to writing this post, especially after all the revisions I made because I needed to add JUST. ONE. MORE. THING. (!!!) Yes, there are things that I feel are missing in my life, but at this moment, I choose to dwell on the blessings. Count your blessings and….squirrel!! 🙂

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